Monday, November 17, 2014

An Ode To Women

As I said in last weeks post An Ode to Men I would write an ode to all the fabulous women in my life, of which there are many.

Things I love about my Friends:

My wedding day 2009. That's me in purple!
(1) They inspire me
My friends Heather and Margie knew that my wedding day was hard for me as my parents had decided not to come due  to a family feud
(shit happens!) so they decided to be my Fairy God Mothers. After the wedding ceremony they came and anointed my husband and I with Fairy Blessings and wishes which was incredibly special and sometime I will never forget.
I got a message from Heather yesterday that she is losing her battle with cancer. she battled through bowel cancer before I met her and then this year developed breast cancer and had a mastectomy. Unfortunately it has now returned. And its winning. Heather has always remained true to her own beliefs and has been an amazing tower of strength for me. she is an inspiration.

(2) They encourage me
I have been working on various projects and my friends constantly urge me onward ( some might call it nagging!). On the days when I want to chuck it all in and think that every word I write is shit, they are there reminding me that this is part of the process and things will get better.

(3) They nurture me
When I have days  when I am overcome with sadness about the state of the world, life and everything else they check in on me to make sure I am eating and getting dressed or they drag me out of the house to remind me that there is still the wonders of cake to behold.

(4) They are real
We don't do mean gossip or keep up with the Kardashians or American Idol or X Factor. It's ok if that's your thing but it's not what we are into. We share about how life really is for us - no holding back, no "I'm fine" when your life is falling apart. I am there for them and they are always there for me.

(5) We eat cake
My friends come in all shapes and sizes and none of them is obsessed with the calorie count of the food they eat. We eat what we love and enjoy it without the "Ooo I shouldn't have eaten that " bullshit.

My friends are all amazing, intelligent and creative women and I am blessed to have them in my life.


My Daughters:

I would love to post a picture of them because they are all stunning but I haven't asked them if I can so I won't :(

Technically they are my step daughters but they are just as much a part of me as my sons and have been part of my life for 22 years which is longer than any of them had been alive when I came into their lives.

(1) They accept me
Yes, it has been a turbulent, roller coaster ride but we are comfortable with each other now. I love them and they love me.
The day I married their father was the happiest ( and saddest) day of my life and my daughters made everything go smoothly without being asked and I don't know where we would have been without them

(2) They are talented
All of them are creative and talented in a myriad of ways. In fact one of them is designing the artwork for the cover of my upcoming book. She sent me the sketch for it the other day and it was so beautiful I can't wait to show it to you.!!

(3) They own their shit
As I mentioned in #1 it has been an interesting ride but I have to give them credit for apologizing for  past events. That takes immense courage and is more than many people take the time to do.


My Mother in Law

My mother in law passed away at the beginning of this year and I was truly blessed to have her in my life. She was a beautiful women, both inside and out. All the jokes about mothers in law being obnoxious was not true in her case. She loved me and I loved her and I miss her daily.

Women can be the most loving, supportive and nurturing forces in your life or they can be bitchy, back stabbing energy suckers. I have had both in my life but due to natural selection I am now only surrounded by amazing women.

I honor them for the parts they play in my life and I treasure each and every one of them. A network of amazing friends is the greatest gift you can give yourself. Choose wisely and don't be afraid to let some friendships end. It just makes space for someone better to arrive.